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Rated 1 out of 5 stars

Awful waste of time and money. You will sign up as a free member to check out the site, get lots of attention, messages and annoying virtual gifts. But once you pay and become a full member just wat... See more

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Was planning to revisit dating after partner died but usual sites tinder etc didn’t appeal - and some sites are over the top! IE provides a very happy medium and the assistance on offer to construc... See more

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

All the 'women' I spoke with at length eventually asked me for money. The platform is full of scammers. What's more, the platform doesn't make the auto-renew obvious and you won't know it's there unti... See more

Rated 3 out of 5 stars

Very expensive for what it is. The main gripe about auto-renewal is easily fixed though. There are lots of real people but as with any dating site, the top 5% of men get almost 100% of the female att... See more

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Rated 1 out of 5 stars

Buy anti depression before subscription.

Fraud. Useless. Total Waste.
1. when I was a free member, 12 girls liked me, sent me virtual gifts (that cheapest one costed 7000 credits for). And they were continuously viewing my profile every 3 nights (one of them called fifi1919, every night) until I paid 140 quid for 4 weeks subscription.
2. I first contacted fifi, she neither replied nor viewed my profile later. Then I contacted my other admirers, out of other 11, 8 didn't replied anything (the same profiles how sent me gifts and likes), 2 communicated kindly (for 2 messages) and didn't continue more and 1 replied with a sheepish smile (meaning we're convinced that you're fooled baby)
3. Female members provide no picture. Profile descriptions mostly generated by site auto generator and sounds similar for the most. Most of users are married, and do not look eager enough.
4. The friend of my wife was a user there; I couldn't spot her since she didn't had a picture. She contacted my whatsapp to amuse herself, but she didn't proceed further.
5. during my 7 weeks subscription (I opted for 3 extra weeks in their promotion) I got 9 profile views from members whom I sent my key to my private gallery (compared to free 12 views above before my subscription).
6. one day before my subscription ends, one profile replied me with an appealing question, so my subscription finished and I couldn't reply. (actually not a problem to me as I know this pattern very well.)
7. and after my subscription finished I am receiving messages every week. (I can't read them as a free member)
8. The site is operated by two people: Sara Hartley (admin) and Sam (who is able to copy paste terms and conditions in replies otherwise refers to Sara when is back in office)

21 February 2021
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi sexuld,

We do not recommend buying antidepressants before joining IE, however many of our members do report feeling happier and more fulfilled since joining the site!

When you first join we promote your profile to our female members in order to give you a chance to see who might be interested in you. Once you are a Gold member on IE you are able to promote yourself so we do this less.

Many members do find success here, it truly is a matter of putting yourself out there and contacting as many prospective people as possible - highly improving your chances at finding that match. Should you have yet to find a match you can always contact our customer services team who are always on hand to help with tips and advice. I can assure you we have many more members of staff than just Sara Hartley and Sam, all who work extremely hard to ensure that our members have a good experience here on IE.

We also have a host of handy tips on how to remain discreet and safe while dating online via our FAQ's and Staysafe page.

Kind Regards
IE Team

Rated 2 out of 5 stars

Lots of time wasters

I’ve used this site a few times since 2012 and have had 3 affairs from it, so it does work. BUT I’d say only about 10% of the women on the site are genuine. Lots don’t exist, you can tell by the emails you get and the majority of women who are real aren’t interested in having an affair. From talking to c20 on the phone they just want attention. They want compliments and to feel special, they want their egos boasted basically, they are pretty dull to be honest and just want some escapism from dull lives. In total I’ve spoke to about 30 (the above 20 and 10 more who are genuinely interested in an affair) on the phone and had email exchanges with c100 others. That’s produced 3 affairs. Don’t use the site anymore. It’s very expensive for men and free for women hence the level of time wasting women.

19 February 2021
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Chris,

Firstly, fabulous to hear you have had three affairs from IE - we love to hear that our members are successful. Sorry to hear you do not intend to use the site anymore, even though it has proven to work for you before... Not too sure on your reasoning here, but each to their own.

Yes, membership for women is currently free, this is to ensure an even ratio of members. IE is the largest extramarital dating site in the UK, and therefore if you are to find genuine women looking for an affair, it's a no brainer to start your search here.

Kind Regards
IE Team

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

It works if you work at it

Firstly, I'm definitely not an employee of IE and this is a genuine review. As others have said, the majority of women on here are intelligent and demand respect. That means creating an interesting profile, reading theirs thoroughly, and contacting them politely. It's probably one of the best affairs dating sites there is - I've used it once before and returned for a second time, but it has its faults. Firstly, if you sign up for free you can't read or send messages and it's true you are contacted by loads of bots or false profiles, all from women like boobylicious or other ridiculous names, who disappear completely when you sign up and pay your subscription. So don't be drawn in by them. It's sad the site feels it has to do this, but we are where we are.

Women don't tend to respond to winks, the only tool you have as a free member to contact them. But if you're patient a few genuine women will find you and maybe send a message. They did with me. One trick is if you wait long enough, IE will let you view one message for free. You can pick one that seems genuine and read it before signing up. I've done that and it works, if only to reassure you there are genuine women out there. No word of a lie, I talked to more than ten women in less than a fortnight by contacting them politely and without pressurizing. Some of these translated into genuine meetings, and one into an actual affair (I was only seeking one). I'm in conversation with a number of women at the moment for when Lockdown ends. So, it works, but you have to put work into it, and it has its faults, but, though inordinately expensive, it is far better than many of the others out there.

And as for the continuous payment issue - just contact them at any time during your paid membership to cancel it and it's done at once.

14 February 2021
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Hi A genuine user,

Thank you kindly for your review!

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Rated 4 out of 5 stars

I've actually been using IE on and off…

I've actually been using IE on and off for the past few years and it's for sure one of the best sites of its kind. I'd definitely say you get what you put in when it comes to online dating and IE in particular, if you're just going to send a message to 5 people in 4 weeks then obviously you're going to be pretty limited when it comes to finding success. Each time I've used IE I've gotten to know some really lovely ladies. Having upgraded over the last year of lockdown, you'd think things would have quietened down, but actually I've got some dates lined up post-lockdown which I'm chuffed about. Customer service is fast and efficient. And yes, they do autorenew membership, but in all fairness they do actually state this and I've always cancelled before the next payment was due, so no complaints there for me!

7 February 2021
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Hi Steve K.,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

You’d have to be REALLY desperate

The deal - Men pay for membership, women don’t. As a man, if u don’t pay for full membership (& initially when you do) you’ll get messages from ladies. Their profile pics will tempt & their words tease. You’ll get the conversation going but it’ll soon drift off & the responses will stop. That’s ok, because there are also some ‘real’ women who you can engage with. But here’s the problem - they haven’t paid (as you have) so have made no ‘real’ commitment to wanting an affair. Amongst the types are window shoppers (just curious), those lacking self-esteem (looking for compliments only), teasers (no intention of wanting an affair but like the suggestion it will progress that far) & quite a few who like the idea of an affair but who would run a mile if it ever got close. Yes, there are also a small no of genuine ladies, too, & if you have physical & emotional connection (& they live within a reasonable distance) then you MIGHT progress to an affair (NB: there are also quite a few looking for stuff that is probably best served on a specialist site). Not sure what the odds are that you’ll find a good ‘un but you’re welcome to have a go. It’ll cost repeated fees because it will take a lot of messaging & questions & silences & being told how rubbish men are.. (& thats before you actually get to see what the lady looks like). I won’t be using the site again - it has a purpose & a use but it’s mostly a money making exercise, designed to extract cash from married men who are prime candidates for having their frustrations & desires exploited.

6 February 2021
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Gareth,

Thanks for your review. Sorry to hear that you're yet to make that connection with a prospective IE. I can assure you IllicitEncounters is a genuine extra marital dating site, we have been operating for over 17 years and many members do find success here. Our pricing policy is in place to ensure a good ratio of men and women. Having a balanced pool of members optimises all prospective members chances at having a successful match.

If you're yet to find any meaningful partner on the site, you're always welcome to ask us for hints and tips. We offer free profile and message consultations for members, so do let us know if this is something that you might be interested in.

We also have a number of helpful tips on our help page. Simply scroll down to the relevant tab in the FAQs and click 'Submit'.

I hope this helps.
IE Team

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

Crooks who will rip you off!

They are simply crooks. When you sign up the keep hitting your credit card with automatic renewals. There is no way to cancel unless you email them.
They rely on the fact that people will be too embarrassed to complain. Beware of these scammers. They will rip you off!

5 February 2021
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi A victim,

Interesting choice of name, considering you had attacked one of our admin staff on the phone.

We are a genuine website with successful members, however, if you spoke to the women the way to spoke to our customer services team I'm not surprised you were not successful.

We most certainly do not charge you if you've cancelled your subscription. It is pretty transparent on our website how to cancel, as you say yourself all it takes is an email, or a phone call to cease your membership.

IE Team

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

Not worth the money !

I joined this site last year for 6 week's I hardly had a reply.
I then cancelled my subscription as soon as I cancelled I changed the wording in my profile which was checked by them and passed.
I then changed it again this week and the wording was declined far enough so I put it back to how it was it was still declined. Obviously not all staff singing from the same hymn sheet.
Since cancelling I receive at least one message a day which is strange.
I can't see these messages unless I upgrade again to see if they real.
Plus the subscription cost is extortionate for what they offer.
Even in lockdown they offerg you 4 weeks for £99 a lot of money when not working.
My advice is there are hundreds of these sites on the internet I would give them a go first.

26 January 2021
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi George,

Profiles are manually approved here at IE, rather than going through an automated checker, we like to be personal here at IE and it means if we ever spot someone might need a bit of help with their profile we can offer it, enhancing the user experience.

Of course with it being checked over by admin, sometimes human error may not have spotted something or it could have been staff on training, and a senior admin may have changed it after. You're always welcome to ask us if you're unsure about anything on the site.

I can assure you all messages you receive on IE are from genuine users - we try very hard to ensure that members who join the site are legitimate.

When you first join we promote your profile to our female members in order to give you a chance to see who might be interested in you. Once you are a Gold member on IE you are able to promote yourself so we do this less.

Kind Regards,
IE Team

Rated 4 out of 5 stars

I’ve been on this site twice and met…

I’ve been on this site twice and met some good friends and lovers.

I recommend it, however you should be aware that you get a high proportion of intelligent men and women on this site and you need to up your game and work on your profile to stand out. Expect to have to contact around 100 women before you have a successful meeting.

Note also that they use auto-renewal which seems to surprise many guys, hence the many bad reviews. The easiest way to cancel subscriptions is just to contact their user support.

Present yourself well, be honest and describe what you want in a woman and you will succeed.

16 December 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Dris Traching,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 3 out of 5 stars

Seems OK just super expensive and probably not worth it

I've never had a paid subscription so this review is based on what I saw as a free customer.

Profiles seemed genuine - a few fakes here and there but nothing special. Women slightly too old for my taste, mostly 45+. The subscription was just way way way too high to make it worth. There are far better cheaper (if not free) options out there.

14 December 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Dan Berger,

Thanks for your review. IE is a genuine extra marital dating site, that has been around now for over 17 years, with plenty of success stories. If in doubt have a look at our testimonials written by members who have used the site and had experiences here, we even have an online live chat forum where you can interact with the wider IE community - regardless of membership status.

As you have pointed out in your review profiles are genuine. Rest assured our team here works very hard to ensure all those that join are genuine people - you can even report profiles if you ever think someone is acting suspiciously and we look into this straight away. Making the assertion that there are fake profiles having never actually subscribed to the site is a bold statement, and simply untrue.

Yes our subscription isn't cheap, this is to dissuade people who are not serious about finding an affair and to guarantee a good ratio of men to women. While it may seem expensive, once you have purchased a membership subscription you have access to unlimited messaging for the duration of the subscription.

Kind Regards,
IE Team

Rated 2 out of 5 stars

Disappointing but efficient

Tried the site for about a year. Did have numerous conversations, but the pandemic made a huge difference to people's willingness to meet. It's also obvious that because it is free for women, that very large numbers of women stay on the site but never look at messages or respond. I agree with another reviewer who suggested that women should be charged for staying the site. This is highly unlikely to happen, of course, because it would impact on the number they can claim are on there.

10 December 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Humbug,

Thanks for your review. The pandemic is out of our control and should members join during this time we do advise that they follow government guidelines. Many members have actually reported to us that they have made more genuine connections during this time as people are forced to date online before they can date in person.

Yes, membership for women is currently free, this is to ensure an even ratio of members.

If you're yet to find any meaningful partner on the site, you're always welcome to ask us for hints and tips. We offer free profile consultations for members, so do let us know if this is something that you might be interested in. I'm sure a few tweaks here and there will make the world of difference :-)

IE Team

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Best affairs website

I have used IE several times over the years and found the site very professional and very good value. It may seem expensive but the members on the whole are genuine and fakes are not tolerated.

I think it is the best website of it's type and if an affair is what you want this is the place to be.

10 December 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Martin,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Actually one of the only sites with…

Actually one of the only sites with genuine people on it. Found what I was looking for and gained a great insight into a crazy dating world. Definitely Recommend.

8 December 2020
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Hi Julian Maurice,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

There are some genuine lovely ladies there....

I placed a review here some 2 years ago, and although I am no longer on IE, just out of curiosity I do look here from time to time to read what experiences other guys have had. Maybe I was lucky but I had no issues with the site. My profile was upfront, not overly wordy and slightly humourous. Yes you have to be aware of the auto renewal and yes I am sure there are a number of fakes on here but most of those are pretty much very obvious. Im an ordinary down to earth guy in his 60's and over 6 or 7 years or so I have met a number of different ladies 2 of which are still very good friends who I chat and catch up with on a regular basis and another wonderful lady who I have been in a relationship for 4 years. The site does exactly what it says but you have put some effort into it and just be yourself as there are some genuine lovely ladies out there.

2 December 2020
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Hi Mr Bluesky,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 4 out of 5 stars

Sucess

I had been on the site 5 weeks and have found someone I have got on with very well. Excellent site

26 November 2020
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Hi Grant,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

Warning! Big Scam! Warning! Big Scam!

Do not fall for this scam. It's very easy to get lured with 'special offers' but you are unwittingly and unwillingly signing for the continuous monthly subscription without knowing. So if you do not keep an eye on your bank statements, it may be months before you realise that you've been charged a fortune for nothing. And if you contact support, you're just fobbed off. This 'business' should be investigated by the serious fraud office as I am sure there are hundreds or even thousands of men that fell for this scam. Do not be another one!

23 November 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi James,

There is nothing fraudulent about our subscription service. Memberships at IE operate on a monthly subscription basis. Our policy is very transparent and tells you exactly how to cancel - most members just cancel upon subscribing if that’s their preference - most subscription services work like this. I'm not sure how you can sign up to a subscription 'unwittingly' or 'unknowingly' when our terms are written in black and white. Saying an online subscription is a scam is like saying your Netflix subscription has robbed you.

Should you rejoin in future please remember to pop us a message.

Kind Regards,
IE Team

Rated 4 out of 5 stars

It is what it said on the tin!

It is what it said on the tin but you need to be patient In finding what your looking for. I've had a couple of meets one compatible. Frustrating when you start chatting and then men become deleted user is this because they haven't subscribed? On the whole though its definitely the best site I've tried.

29 October 2020
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Hi Lois,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

Don’t waste your time and money

Since the start of this year, I’ve tried both IE and AM. I don’t know how these sites are still operating because they’re a total scam. But I guess you get fools coming along who think they may actually have a chance to chat and meet real women. There may be some genuine women on the site but the amount of fake profiles mean its impossible to tell who’s genuine or not. Oh and watch out for the automatic monthly renewal. That’s another £99 that I didn’t even realise I agreed to.

From now on, I’ll stick to the free sites like HUUSH and pof.

22 October 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Simon B,

I can assure you IE is not a con. IE is a genuine extra marital dating site, that has been around now for over 17 years, with plenty of success stories.

You can cancel your renewal at any point up until the date of renewal, and we provide confirmation that it has been done.

I hope this helps clarify.

Many thanks,
IE Team

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

Women are not real

I’m currently on IE for the third time. Previous subscriptions yielded lots of conversations but very few ‘meets’. I accept that and realise women have a choice.
What I have found really galling this time is the dearth of profile views after sending a message. If the women on the site are real then they have become almost clairvoyant. Jus seems odd that messages are completely disregarded without so much as a cursory view.
There are other issues. When my previous subscription ended I received more ‘messages’ than when I was active. Also very odd.
Now it appears there are hordes of new women members. Sometimes 10 a day. I message many with the same result as I mentioned previously. Also extremely odd.
The site is also exploited by scammers. Women who are certainly not in this country.
I am sure there are some real women on the site but I believe the majority don’t exist. The so called new members, many with profiles which seem familiar, certainly are not real and I believe them to be generated by IE to encourage continued subscriptions.

Very disappointing and exploitative site.

12 October 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi David,

IllicitEncounters is a genuine extra-marital dating site that has been operating for over 17 years and we have had many success stories over the years.

I can honestly say that here at IE we work tirelessly to ensure that our profiles are 100% genuine, that is why we scrutinise every single profile before approving it.

When you first join we promote your profile to our female members in order to give you a chance to see who might be interested in you. Once you are a Gold member on IE you are able to promote yourself so we do this less.

We do not now, nor have we ever populated our site with fake profiles, this assertion is simply untrue. We are one of the few dating sites that allow all members, even unpaid ones, to report any profiles they believe are acting suspiciously, we even include a space in which you can express specifically what it is about the profile that has caused you to report it, to aid us in our investigations.

I hope that eases some of your concerns but if there's anything else I can help with, please don't hesitate to get back in touch.

Best Wishes,
IE Team

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

A great site that delivers what it…

A great site that delivers what it promises. If you are prepared to put the effort into making your profile interesting, readable, honest, grammatically correct and straightforward then you will find what you are looking for. When contacting potential dates you need to read their profile carefully and ensure your replies match what they want. Don't pressurise and be patient.

11 October 2020
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Hi Public Relations,

Thank you kindly for your review!

IE Team

Rated 1 out of 5 stars

A lot of men get scammed

A lot of men get scammed by a rolling agreement to pay £99 a month after your registration expires. You have to scroll down a long way to see the small print. If you don't know about this, you will certainly get suckered. For those who have been robbed in this way, I advise going to the fraud department of your bank. They got me a refund.
A second negative is that the service is free for women, so they have no incentive to withdraw their profile when no longer interested, or feel any pressure to find a partner.

9 October 2020
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Reply from Illicitencounters

Hi Anon,

I am not sure why you refer to our auto renew as a scam? Our payment page has the details of our auto renewal process and also how to cancel on the bottom. Banks also can see this information when they contact us. Our policy is very transparent and tells you exactly how to cancel - most members just cancel upon subscribing if that’s their preference - most subscription services work like this. Banks definitely don’t refund payments that have been actively made by the card holder - especially not as fraud - fraud is somebody else using your card without your permission, which clearly isn’t the case here.

Yes, membership for women is currently free, this is to ensure an even ratio of members. Rest assured the majority of females once successful remove their profiles from the site and are proactive in finding a match as we all want to have fun rather than spend ages browsing and sending tons of messages.

Should you rejoin in future please remember to pop us a message. I’m sure you will find all other sites you may now join also do have auto renewal - probably in smaller text and well hidden!

I hope this helps clarify!

Kind Regards,
IE Team

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