Good school undermined by poor senior management
I’m really sorry to read this, because it sadly reflects my own experience with the school’s senior leadership and governance. I want to be clear from the outset that my children love the school and, in my experience, the classroom teachers themselves are genuinely very good and caring. My concerns lie firmly with leadership, administration, and the lack of meaningful support for separated parents -particularly fathers. I still remember walking to the school office to ask whether they would be willing to allow me to see my son and daughter for a brief few minutes when their mother began preventing access. The School Business Manager was harsh and abrupt with me, promised to contact me later, but nothing ever materialised.
As a separated father, I raised legitimate concerns around access, communication, and safeguarding. I was repeatedly reassured that these matters would be dealt with properly, yet over time it became clear that I was being fobbed off rather than supported. Despite assurances, the school still does not have a formal separated parents policy in place, nor any clear framework to support fathers experiencing parental alienation or restricted contact.
What I found especially troubling was being advised that I should communicate only through my children’s mother, despite the fact that my communication and access were actively being denied. Saying this to a father who is being excluded from his children’s lives is not only unrealistic, it is deeply inappropriate and shows a complete lack of understanding of the realities of parental alienation and high-conflict separations.
During one interaction, the headteacher spoke to me in a dismissive and insensitive manner. She repeatedly talked over me, raised her voice, and cut me short when I was trying to explain the situation, even stating to the safeguarding lead, “I don’t have time for this.” This occurred when I was simply trying to drop gifts to my children at the school gates after school hours -something I am fully entitled to do as their biological father. This interaction will remain etched in my mind as the rudest I have ever experienced at my children’s school, which I had always believed to be highly respectable.
Finally, while the governors made commitments to investigate and follow through, there was no meaningful outcome. Promises were made and meetings were held, but accountability and action never materialised. It’s frustrating because with better leadership and clearer policies, this could be a truly excellent school. Unfortunately, red tape, poor communication, and a lack of understanding around separated families overshadow what should otherwise be a positive environment.



